When you and your spouse file for divorce, the last thing you may expect is for the process to be a contentious, bitter battle. Unfortunately, this may continue after the divorce is finalized if your ex-spouse intentionally damages the relationship between you and your child. This act, known as parental alienation, is something that is incredibly damaging to the relationship between a parent and child. As such, if you have reason to believe your ex-spouse is intentionally engaging in this behavior, the following blog explores the signs that this is occurring and the steps you can take with the help of St. Louis family lawyers to help you seek the best possible outcome during these difficult matters.
What Is Parental Alienation?
Parental alienation occurs when one parent intentionally manipulates a child into rejecting their other parent. As such, the relationship with the target parent will dwindle, with the child refusing to spend time with them, acting out when in their custody, and rejecting their attempts to maintain a relationship.
A parent may tell the child lies, like “Mom doesn’t love you,” or “Dad never calls to check on you,” when, in reality, this is not the case. They may also continually speak negatively about the target parent in front of the child, so as to manipulate the child into believing them.
What Can I Do if I Believe I’m a Victim?
If you believe you are a victim of parental alienation, it’s imperative to take the necessary steps to best protect yourself in these difficult matters. In general, one of the most important things you can do is refrain from blaming your child. While you may be upset and hurt by your child’s actions, words, and behavior, it’s critical to understand that they, too, are a victim at the hands of your spouse. As such, you shouldn’t blame them or get upset with them, despite how hurtful they may be. Continue to support and communicate with them, even if they are distant or unresponsive to the efforts. This will show that, despite what they are being told by their other parent, you are still there as a constant supporter in their life.
You should also connect with an experienced attorney to help you petition the court to change the current custody arrangement if you can show that it is no longer in the best interest of the child. While this may not be legally considered abuse, many courts believe intentional parental alienation goes against the best interests of the child, and may take measures to change the current custody arrangement to mitigate the damage your ex-spouse is causing.
As you can see, parental alienation can be incredibly difficult to navigate, and can have a lasting impact on your relationship with yur child. As such, it is in your best interest to connect with a lawyer with the Stobie Family Law Group to help you determine the best possible steps to take.
