Going through a divorce is rarely an easy process. Even for divorces that are amicable and civil, there are a considerable number of matters that can result in stress, tension, and anxiety. However, when child custody is at the forefront of your divorce, the last thing you expect is to be thrust into a high-conflict custody battle. Unfortunately, these can have negative impacts on everyone involved, including your children. As such, the following blog and St. Louis child custody lawyers can help you navigate these matters to best protect yourself and your children during these difficult times.
What Makes a Custody Battle High-Conflict?
When a couple going through a divorce and subsequent custody battle is not only unable to reach an agreement but cannot communicate or cooperate on matters regarding their child, it is considered high conflict. For example, if one or both parents cannot communicate without arguing, are hostile, and exhibit combative behavior when discussing matters related to the children, it can be considered high conflict.
Unfortunately, child custody is one of the most contentious matters a couple will navigate when divorcing, as both parents may feel entitled to spend more time with the child than the other. However, when custody cannot be agreed upon by the parents, the courts will step in to determine what arrangement is in the child’s best interests.
How Can I Reduce the Impact of This Matter?
It’s important to understand that a high-conflict custody battle can have substantial impacts on everyone involved in this matter, including your children. As such, it’s imperative to do what you can to help mitigate the impact on your family.
One of the most important things you can do is to avoid speaking negatively about your spouse. While ranting to a trusted family member or therapist can help you feel better, spreading lies or false information about your spouse as a way to impact their chances of receiving custody will only hurt your credibility in the end.
Additionally, you should never speak poorly about your spouse in front of your children. Even if your spouse is in the wrong, saying hurtful things in front of children can leave them confused and conflicted. They may feel as if they have to pick a side, and that can bring about immense feelings of guilt.
Finally, it’s not uncommon for one spouse to continually make inflammatory or intentionally upsetting remarks. As such, you should try to keep all communication over email or text. Not only does this allow you time to plan out a careful response rather than immediately reacting, but it also gives you the opportunity to document their behavior. When responding, you should not engage with their behavior. Instead, keep communication business-like and focused on the child.
Custody is a complicated issue that can bring about the worst in some. As such, if you are going through a divorce, it’s imperative to connect with the Stobie Family Law Group. We can help you navigate these matters and fight for the best possible outcome for you and your children. Contact us today to learn more.
